“Oh. My. God. I will just forget about everything, binge-watch Dawson’s Creek reruns on Netflix, and eat whatever the hell I want! I don’t want to talk to anyone! Hashtag: Self-care!”
I so hear you.
Sometimes, we get so burnt out because of work, finances, relationships — LIFE! — that we just want to drop everything, move to another country, and start over.
Of course, if you’re like me and almost everyone else I know, the possibility of that happening is close to zilch. And so here we are. …
Because romanticizing a hard life can feel… good.
When I was asked by a (wiser) friend more than a decade ago why I did the things I did back then when they obviously did not make me happy, I answered with full honesty and said, “Because I don’t want to be mediocre.”
I still struggle with this mindset to this day and actively try to remember that there’s nothing wrong with “mediocre” or “uneventful” — and that this is merely a matter of personal preference.
Wanting to have a life full of color is not an appalling thought; I’d like…
It was 40 minutes into our sixth session and this 26-year-old has been crying for the past ten minutes. I let her. Sometimes the catharsis happens after a good cry.
“I still want to be with him. I love him even when he treats me like shit. I want you to help me endure all the hurt.” She continued to sob.
I gave out a tentative “Hmm,” and stayed silent.
“Please. Help me tolerate this relationship. He is my everything.”
Just to give you context, this client is arguably successful in her chosen career and a strong-willed single mother who’s…
We all have read and heard about journaling and its wonderful benefits to mental health. If you haven’t, here are quick and practical bullet points as to why it works:
I have been spending almost 4 decades now being a space-holder. My job titles over the years are not exactly “space-holder,” but the nature of my work (whether as a corporate trainer, a yoga teacher, studio owner, a meditation teacher, a life coach, a counselor) and the roles I have in life (as a friend, a parent, a daughter, a sister, and a wife) are most certainly exactly that.
If you look at the roles you play, chances are, for most of your life, you have probably been asked (implicitly or explicitly) to hold space for others, too.
I’ve been doing yoga for a total of 9 years now and it was quite serendipitous – I was having back issues (I had fixed sagittal imbalance a.k.a. flat back syndrome and some compression around the cervical and lumbar spine) and was going to a physical therapist that time, but I’ve used up all the sessions covered by my health card. My doctor said I should try yoga. I brushed it off. A couple days later, I received 3 months’ worth of Gold’s Gym membership as an exchange for a project.
They had yoga classes.
My life turned around completely…
Ah. Gaslighting. One of the most favourite topics in the last four years.
We hear it all the time, but what is it really?
Gaslighting is the term used to refer to a (most often) subconscious technique in manipulating how another person thinks. The intention of gaslighting is to gain superiority or to alter the reality of the other person, and is often observed when a power dynamic is at play. (So yes, gaslighting may happen to all kinds of relationships that have a power dynamic: boss-employee, parent-child, husband-wife, government-people. It did, however, become more prevalent in romantic relationships.)
I was supposed to conduct a 2-day workshop on mindful parenting last month through Lighthouse Wellness Philippines, but the community quarantine happened and everything had to be moved to an indefinite date. This is me modifying some of the contents of that workshop to fit today’s whole new world.
Whether you are in a parenting role or not, this piece is relevant to you and may help you in understanding your own parents or primary care giver/s.
If you are a parent, I am writing this for you. We know that no one is ever really ready for parenthood, and…
When I ask people what first words or phrases come to mind when someone mentions the word “spirituality,” most of them would answer God, Jesus, pray, and religion. This is not surprising from people coming from the only Christian nation in Asia — a whopping 90% of the Philippine population is Christian.
Spirituality has been making waves in subcultures in the recent years, and the rise in popularity of the ancient Hindu practice of yoga and meditation has contributed to this. Yoga is the 4th fastest growing industry in the US, and an average of 40 million Americans practice it…
Do you feel the heaviness of the world right now?
I think we all do.
We are living our lives on a day-by-day basis. It doesn’t matter what age, race, gender, or socioeconomic status you have, we are all experiencing the same kinds of fear, sadness, anxiety, and uncertainty right now.
While providing remote counseling sessions and informal ones for my friends, I noticed a general theme that didn’t sit well with me, and I noticed myself thinking the same way sporadically the past two weeks. It sounds like:
“I should not feel sad or depressed or bored because I…
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